Let life happen to you. Believe me: life is in the right, always.
Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it.
Well, I believe life is a Zen koan, that is, an unsolvable riddle. But the contemplation of that riddle - even though it cannot be solved - is, in itself, transformative. And if the contemplation is of high enough quality, you can merge with the divine.